1 year letter to Adelyn

Dearest Adelyn,

Today we celebrate the one year anniversary of your birth. 1 year since you changed your Momma and Daddy’s lives forever. 12 months of laughter, tears, frustration, elation. 52 weeks of restless nights and joy-filled days, of doctor’s check ups and milestones. 365 days that have gone by so fast, we fear the next year, 10 years, 50 years, will go by in the blink of an eye.

From the beginning, you were loved. From the moment the word “pregnant” appeared on the pregnancy test (not to mention the two pink lines and the little blue plus sign), we loved you. Through my bouts of morning sickness that lasted all day, we loved you. When you made your Momma get up 4+ times in an hour to use the restroom, we loved you. You were our little “Baby Z”, a mystery, a wonderful blessing and the most exciting adventure either of us was about to embark on. Our love for you grew every day, just as you grew from the size of a little poppy seed to a full blown watermelon!

We told your grandparents the exciting news that we were expecting a little baby over Thanksgiving 2008. Your Daddy and I framed two copies of your ultrasound picture, mailed one frame to Gram Z and Pops in Virginia, and took the other frame to Grandma Lo and Grandpa Joe in Austin. We got to see Grandma Lo and Grandpa Joe’s reactions in person, and it was exactly what we hoped for – thrilled squeals of happiness from them and your Auntie Kim and Auntie Mikaela. We next called Gram Z and Pops on the phone and told them to open their “Thanksgiving gift”, and we heard the same happy reactions from them and your Auntie Lindsay.

It was exactly what we had wanted to hear.

The pregnancy simultaneously flew by and stood still. We couldn’t wait to find out if you were a boy or a girl (we wanted to be surprised when you were born). We couldn’t wait to hold you, introduce you to everyone, take you on trips… and yet, I wanted to keep you in my tummy where I knew you would be completely safe. And what a big tummy I had by the end…

The day you arrived was intense, emotional and magnificent.

You are your mother’s daughter. You looked almost exactly like me when you were born. Same little nose, same little chin, same dark hair. You and I have bonded in ways that only a Momma and her baby can bond. You poked me and nudged me from the inside for months, and I loved it. When I nurse you, you run your little hand back and forth, back and forth, along my collar bone, as if to say “I love you, Momma”. And I reply by stroking your hair, “I love you, Baby”.

Your Momma, circa 1985

Baby Adelyn, 2009

You are your father’s daughter. You are easy going and good-natured. You go with the flow, even when it means falling asleep in crowded, noisy places like your Aunt Kim’s graduation or a family reunion.  You love being outside, enjoying beautiful weather.  Working with Daddy on his oil leases makes you smile.  You can watch your “horsey’s” go up and down all day long and not get bored. You like to go fast in your little red car, and you are a little daredevil who enjoys being swung around and tipped upside down. You are a cheese and avocado aficionado, just like Daddy. And your eyes.  Ohhh, your eyes.  You get compliments from everyone about your gorgeous blue eyes.  And yes, they are most definitely your Daddy’s.

The day you outgrew your first newborn outfits was a shock. The idea that you wouldn’t stay our wee little baby nearly broke my heart. I love that you are so utterly dependent on your Daddy and me because before long, I know you will be struggling to get down from our hugs, to let go of our hands to go play, to take the car so you can go shopping (::gulp::). So until then we hold you, kiss you, snuggle you, trying to soak you in until we’re overflowing with baby love.

You are our little angel, and we’re so blessed to have such a sweet girl. We love you baby. Happy 1st birthday!

Love Momma and Daddy

Adelyn’s birth story

One of my friends was induced yesterday morning and delivered a baby girl early this morning (congrats to the new happy family!). As I was following her progress, it got me thinking back to Adelyn’s delivery, so I’ve decided to finish writing up Addy’s birth story. FINALLY!

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At my 40th week doctor’s appointment on May 19th, I was 90% effaced and still only a fingertip width dilated. My doc and I had discussed inductions, but she said the earliest we would induce would be at the very end of May or even the beginning of June (for first time moms, they wait as long as possible before inducing in hopes that the baby comes on its own). I did NOT want to wait that long, but what can you do? Baby was coming out when Baby was ready.

I began having irregular contractions in the days following my dr.’s appointment and I was starting to feel pretty uncomfortable (sore abdomen, stomach, etc). My parents and sisters came to town that Friday, May 22, for Memorial Day weekend, and we were hoping that I would go into labor over the next few days since my family was already here. Saturday, May 23rd, was a relaxing day with no real excitement. We went to the pool (twice!), grilled shish kabobs for dinner and generally just took it easy.

Sunday (May 24th) was my birthday and original due date, so we all had our fingers crossed that things would get moving! We had a leisurely morning and decided to go to the mall so we could buy a baby book and do a little shopping. Before we left, I noticed that I had some light spotting and mild cramps so I alerted everyone to what was happening. Could this be it?? I remember feeling scared and excited and anxious to finally meet our little one.

We went to the mall and ended up buying a baby book for Derek and I to fill out for Baby Z, and while we were there, I started to get mild contractions. On our way home, we stopped by Dairy Queen to pick up an ice cream cake for my birthday (yummmmm!). The rest of the day was spent hanging around the apartment, timing my contractions. By about 4pm, they were starting to get more uncomfortable and were coming between 10-15 mins apart. They stayed like that for the rest of the day, until we called it a night at around 10pm.

Derek and I slept for a little while, but by 11pm my contractions were getting more intense and started waking me up. Luckily I was able to drift off to sleep again between contractions. This went on until about 2am when they started to get really painful and I could no longer sleep. Derek was awake with me, and by 3am we decided that we should probably get ready to head to the hospital. I got in the shower in hopes that the hot water would relax my muscles, but it didn’t do much good. I took my time packing up the rest of my hospital bag, trying to relax between the contractions (now coming about 5-10 mins apart). Around 4:30am, we woke up my parents and sisters to tell them that we were heading to the hospital!

The nice thing about going to the hospital in the middle of the night is that there is very little traffic :) We got up to Methodist Willowbrook Hospital in about 15 mins. As we were walking into the hospital, I had to stop in the middle of the parking lot to breathe through a contraction. We got up to Labor and Delivery, and they sent my right over to the triage area to be monitored. After changing into a gown, the nurse came in to check me out. She asked how far dilated I was at my last appointment, etc. After telling her “only a fingertip” she said I would be very excited to know that I was now 100% effaced and 3cm dilated!!! They decided to admit me rather than send me home since I was technically overdue and had made some nice progress since my last doctor’s appointment. I couldn’t believe it was actually happening, we were going to have a baby! A Memorial Day baby, at that!

They sent me and Derek to my labor and delivery room, where they hooked me up with the two belts around my stomach (to monitor fetal heart rate and my contractions), and they also started my saline IV and drew some blood for tests. By about 6am, I was all set up in our room, just laboring away (and writing a post for the blog at the same time). The nurses went through a shift change at 7am, and my nurse Kalen came to introduce herself and check on my progress. They decided to start me on pitocin to speed up my contractions at 8am. Man, once that pitocin kicked in, the contractions became REALLY painful. I felt like such a wuss, but they were killer. Poor Derek, he was trying to be a good husband and rub my arm or leg during the contractions, but I think I bit his head off with the common pregnant-lady-in-labor phrase “Don’t touch me!” a few times. I seem to recall saying “Man, I want to say a lot of bad words right now”… but I refrained :)

Kalen gave me a shot of demerol to “take the edge off” the contractions, but let me tell you, it did squat. All it did was make me fall asleep between contractions, and then I’d wake up in as much pain as before. I think I scared Derek once because in my loopy, half-drugged state, I tried to get out of bed because I was in so much pain. I just wanted the epidural! Finally at 10am they gave me the epidural and it was heaven. The process of administering the epidural was a bit difficult (holding still during a contraction was not easy), but it was so worth it. I couldn’t feel anything below my waist. I did have trouble moving my right leg though -it was like a dead weight, very weird.

The nurse came back to check on my about 10:45am and stated I was 6-7cm dilated. Things were really starting to move along now that I was relaxed. My family made it up to the hospital shortly after that and spent some time visiting with us in the room. I don’t really remember much after seeing the family arrive. I do know a doctor and nurse came back in around noon to check on my progress and they said I was fully dilated, so the doc broke my water. (Side note: my usual doc was not on call, so we had a different doc deliver the baby.) I was told to relax for about 30 mins and then the nurse would come back and we would practice pushing! The nurse kept saying how lucky I was that Baby was sitting so low in my pelvis because that would mean I wouldn’t have to spend hours and hours trying to push her down into the birth canal.

At 12:30, Kalen came back and got me all set up in the stirrups. My right leg really was dead to the world, so Derek had to lift it up and place it in the holder. It really is a weird feeling, not having control of all your appendages. On my first push, Kalen said she could see that the Baby had a full head of long dark hair :) Baby was turned and facing a funny direction though, so as I was pushing, Kalen helped turn Baby. I practiced pushing for about 30 mins before the doc was called to our room to deliver our Baby. I pushed some more when the doc arrived, and after ~20 hrs of labor and with the help of the vacuum, Adelyn made her appearance at 1:12pm.

Adelyn weighed 6 lbs 5.8 ozs and measured 19.5 inches long. Everyone was surprised by her dark hair (and how much she had!). Because she had been stuck at a funny angle and we needed to use the vacuum, Addy had a large hematoma on her head. It’s still there now, 6 weeks later, although it is much smaller and is barely noticeable. Just a little bit longer and it will disappear completely!

The recovery has been a bit difficult. Because of the epidural, my right leg was completely numb so I had to rely completely on Derek and Kalen to move me to the recovery room (getting me out of bed, into the wheelchair, back into the new bed). Luckily I regained sensation within a few hours. There were other problems with the epidural though. It turns out the anesthesiologist went a little too far with the spinal needle and punctured the membrane surrounding my spinal cord, letting a little bit of spinal fluid leak out. This resulted in me getting a spinal headache (happens to about 1 in 200 women). Lying flat was the only way I felt decent- as soon as I sat up or moved around, the pain in my head and neck was intense. This sucked because all I wanted to do was bond with Addy. Lying flat made nursing more challenging, changing diapers almost impossible, etc. The anesthesiologist said that the little hole would heal by “scabbing” over, but if I moved around too much or exerted myself, the scab would open again and the pain would come back. Reasonable for a new mother? I think not. Basically he had me on bed rest, made me drink tons of fluids, caffeine, taking vicodin, but still the headache didn’t go away.

By Wednesday, the day we were supposed to be discharged (I delivered on Monday), I was feeling pretty bad, so they decided to keep me one more day. On Thursday the anesthesiologist performed a blood patch, where they remove some blood from my arm and inject it back into the spot where the epidural was in hopes of forming a clot. The blood patch worked wonders and I finally started to feel better. We were discharged later Thursday evening and finally got to come home! The first night home was great, so nice to be in our own bed again (poor Derek had been sleeping on an uncomfortable fold down couch the entire time we were at the hospital). We set our alarm to wake us up every 3 hrs to feed Adelyn but found that that wasn’t necessary, she woke us up when she was hungry (every 2.5 hrs or so) :)

On Friday, Derek’s parents arrived from Florida to visit their first grandbaby, and they spent the next 4 days taking care of Derek, Adelyn and me. Unfortunately, we think I ended up opening the scab on the blood patch when we got home Thursday night, because my headache came back. I spent the next week on semi-bed rest again, so it really was wonderful having Derek’s parents in town to help get us back on our feet. After they left on Monday, Derek had to go back to work (boo) and my Mom came to take over for the Zivney’s. She stayed with me, cooked and cleaned and helped with Addy until Thursday when I was finally feeling better.

Since then, things have been great. Adelyn still gets up roughly twice a night (sometimes more) and has naps during the day. She’s growing quickly – she’s practicing holding her head up, she’s great at focusing and tracking items, she’s interested in colors, she’s cooing and trying to communicate… It’s amazing to watch her develop! We are so blessed to have a happy, healthy baby girl :)

Finally, pictures from Adelyn’s first day!

I’m finally getting around to posting some pictures of Adelyn’s birthday. She has changed so much since then. I’ll sort through some of the more recent pics we have and put those up too. We’re doing well, settling into somewhat of a routine. I’m in the works of writing up Adelyn’s birth story so I can put it in her baby book, so I’ll post it on the blog when I’m done. Hopefully that’s something I can tackle tomorrow! Thanks to everyone for your thoughts, prayers, support and generosity during these past 1.5 weeks. :)

Trying to deal with the contractions by updating the blog.
Adelyn’s first bed!
Oh, the contractions. Top graph shows Addy’s heartbeat, bottom graph shows my contractions.
Auntie Kim visiting after they administered the epidural so I’m feeling pretty good!
Auntie Mikaela
Excited grandparents!
So ready to meet our baby
Adelyn’s first picture!
Derek cutting the umbilical cord

Footprints
Watching Adelyn being footprinted
First family photo :)
Precious girl
My side of the family checking out our new arrival
Aunties taking pictures

Momma loves her baby
Baby loves her Daddy

It’s cold out here!
First bath, not too happy




Proud Papa, he loves his baby girl
Aunt Mikaela

So tired!
Grandma Lo showing off Adelyn’s teeny tiny feet
Me and Mikaela
Grandma Lo and Grandpa Joe with their granddaughter
Hello world!

Sleeping cherub

1 Week Old!

Adelyn is now one week old with a couple eventful moments today. That had to be the fastest week of my life. I just pray that the rest of our moments together don’t go by this fast!

It was a very relaxing weekend for Adelyn, Lindsay, and I. My parents, Pops and Gram Z came in Friday from Florida to see their granddaughter for the first time. The new family got plenty of time to relax as the new grandparents took over the fort. I am really happy that they got to come and see their granddaughter while she was less than a week old. I wish we had more time together as a family before they left this morning to go back home. Adelyn misses all the funny faces and noises that Pops was creating which made her smile.
Before leaving, Lindsay’s mom, Grandma Lo arrived so Adelyn and Lindsay wouldn’t miss a second of being pampered. Unfortunately for me, I had to return to work this morning for the first time since Adelyn was born so I didn’t get to be around for all the action today.
Grandma Lo, Lindsay, and I have all been blessed by the fountain of youth today. Grandma Lo was the first to experience this fountain of youth as Adelyn peed on her while changing her diaper. Usually baby boys do this so it caught everyone off guard. Later in the day, when we thought everything was settling down, her umbilical cord fell off! So now she just a little stub of where it once was. As Lindsay changed her diaper later in the afternoon, Lindsay was also blessed by the fountain of youth. This was crazy since it happened twice in one day. Once I got home this evening, Grandma Lo and Lindsay told me about the eventful afternoon. Now I see why I was next in line to change Adelyn’s diaper. As luck had it, I too was blessed by the fountain of youth! Yes, three people have been doused by Adelyn today. Crazy.
Here are a couple of pictures from the weekend with the grandparents and bathtime.















Teaser Photos



(Adelyn squeezing my finger just before her first bath)


(I guess she likes my salty teary covered fingers)


(I finally got to hold her after the bath)

These are just a couple teaser photos. Trust me, we got plenty more to post once things slow down a bit! – Derek (The proudest Dad alive)

Adelyn Lindsay Zivney

I would like to announce the arrival of our new baby girl, Adelyn Lindsay Zivney! She was born on May 25, 2009 at 1:12pm weighing in at 6 lbs. 6 oz.. She has a thick, beautiful head of dark hair and blue eyes. She is 19.5″ long and loves to be in her moms arms. Her eyes are constantly open and looking around the room. Her cry is very soft and innocent which makes me a little weak to hear!

Mom is doing great this evening. She has been resting all afternoon from the events that have led up to 1:12pm today. Lindsay has been an amazing trooper over the last 24 hours, which I have no idea how she did it, especially without sleeping last night. I have never felt so helpless in my life when I had to stand next to her bed and watch her go through all the painful contractions. There just wasn’t anything I could do for her. I am very proud of her for what she has endured throughout the pregnancy. I give her an A+!

Today was absolutely amazing. Words don’t even describe watching your baby girl breathe her first breath, cry her first cry, and open her eyes for the first time, just to be looking straight into her dad’s very own eyes. Today was truly magically.

Delivery Time

Alright here we go! Mom, Dad, Mikaela and I are all sitting out in the lobby waiting to hear that baby has arrived safe and healthy. I can tell Derek and Lindsay are both so excited to finally see their little baby. Everyone thinks it will be a girl, but I am still holding on to the thought that it’s a boy :) Will update again once the baby has arrived.

Water Broke!

Kim here… I guess it’s my turn to write a small post. So we, the family, just got “kicked” out of the room. Her doctor came in to break her bag and she is almost ready to start pushing! She is fully dilated and after a little 30 minute rest, she will begin to deliver Baby Z!

We are all so excited to finally greet the little one and find out their name :) . Lindsay is doing so great, she keeps saying she can barely feel her legs and it’s a tingly pricky sensation. Hopefully within the hour we will have the little bundle of joy and can all relax, we are all so anxious!

Anyway short post, just a little update for you all, I will post again when we are out in the lobby waiting to see the baby for the first time!

Sleepin’

She is sleeping like a baby now… Lindsay that is. Everything is going well and Baby Z should be here in the afternoon today. The epidural was an amazing pain killer for her. The baby’s heart rate has been doing great and relaxed. The doctor believes her delivery should go quickly since the baby is already low in the pelvis and a little on the smaller size. Who knows, Baby Z could come in the next hour or so!